Well, it ends up being a lot more than that. They want an adult to talk to. They want someone who will listen to their story.
McClintic said Schamberger is a valuable health resource in the nurseries, too. Is this something I need to take to a doctor? Parents have to remember their own history and their own experience with life in this world.
On the other hand, I love giving my kids gifts. I love their anticipation and excitement. I love seeing the joy on their faces as they play. Have you ever wrestled with that tension? Is that a valid way of thinking about this? What advice do you have for helping parents to navigate that? William Smith Absolutely. I also want my kids to enjoy their lives and to anticipate.
There is sort of the quick out which is God gave us Jesus, so we give each other gifts. God gave us Jesus because of our need for a renewed relationship with him, and the gifts that I give you do not renew anything in that kind of way. I find it more helpful maybe to go to the place where we learn in Scripture that it truly is better to give than to receive, and to talk to my kids about why do we give gifts?
Because it is better to give than to receive. So, could we also learn that piece during Christmas time? How can you and I work together to think about your siblings, your mother, other relatives, and friends?
I want to put time and energy and resources into helping you be able to experience the joy of giving, not just the fun of getting. Matt Tully I know one thing that I have often thought about when it comes to presents with our kids is thinking about how Christmas morning often works. Oftentimes we want to read a passage of Scripture, we want to sing a hymn as you and your family do , and we want to pray together.
You mentioned the idea of celebrating some of that stuff the day before, leading up to a Christmas Eve service, but do you have any other advice that you would offer to parents for very practically helping their young kids? William Smith Not getting rid of presents altogether and wrestling with how do we communicate these high level truths to a three-year-old?
I think, in a lot of ways, you inculcate that physically. What does that mean? It means, no, we really are going to read the Bible story first. When the kids were small, we had picture Bible story books—something that would be a little more age appropriate. We did not make a forty-five minute worship service before presents.
William Smith I think you have to be. You and I are going to live forever. So yes, I think we try to not dumb things down, but make them accessible. Something where we actually get to participate in the giving and in the joy. And then we want to make sure that we spend some time actually playing with the kids, not just giving them things, but, again, making this a relational activity.
Many of us love Christmas precisely because of that family dynamic. How do you think about—especially as we talk to our kids—the emphasis on family that is so often present at Christmas, along with an emphasis on looking outward and wanting to serve others, whether in our broader church community or the community around where we live? William Smith I remember one time my wife took gifts to some of the people in the neighborhood.
We have a Christian neighbor who would take cookies around the neighborhood. Just something small. There was one thing that my family growing up did that really did stand out to me. We would go to Christmas Eve service, and then we went to visit this older couple across the street. Obviously, there was interaction throughout the rest of the year, but this was a special way of connecting with them.
The primary component is, You will be there, and you will experience the community. And we will give a couple more words of explanation. They just want to stay home. William Smith In parenting, what am I looking for? He included some stationery and stamps in case she wanted to write back.
Their correspondence became a weekly occurrence; four years later upon her graduation, he presented her with a bound volume of the letters. Not individual grades. Parents need to let their kids grow and establish themselves in college, advises Lisa Kaenzig, first-year associate dean at William Smith College in Geneva, NY. E-newsletters, emails and a large dose of one-on-one phone calls help to inform parents about the college culture, both easing concerns about any number of parent worries like social adjustment, academic performance, roommate compatibility and campus safety, and nipping those problems in the bud, says Kelly Young, director of parent relations and stewardship at Hobart and William Smith Colleges HWS.
Still, typical parental apprehensions notwithstanding, Young wants her son, Tim, to be on his own and have the college experience as if he were attending school on another campus out of state when he attends Hobart as a first-year this fall. How Often Should You Call? HWS Deans will discuss how families can help transfer students find their place on a new campus. Location: Zoom Time: - 5 p.
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